Frederick (Fred) G.H. Fayen II, beloved husband, father, friend and educator, passed away
November 11, 2020 at the age of 80. He is predeceased by his parents, Mariana Hilton Field and
Carl Frederick Fayen, stepfather Joseph Blake Field, and sister Juliana (Jan) Moyer.
Born in New Canaan, Connecticut, Fred lived in Leesburg, Virginia; Reno, Nevada; Phoenix,
Arizona; Palm Springs, California; and Boston, Massachusetts, before settling in New Jersey to
begin his teaching career at the Pingry School. A graduate of Phillips Exeter Academy, Fred
went on to earn an AB degree in History from Harvard University and later an MA in Education
from New York University. Upon graduation from Harvard, he returned to California and served
in the U.S. Army Reserves. It was in California that Fred first stepped into the role of teacher,
beginning his life-long career at the Palm Valley School, which was founded in 1952 by his
mother and stepfather, Mariana and J. Blake Field, and is still in operation today.
Fred was married to Deborah (Debbie) Early of Convent Station, NJ from 1967-1974 and
welcomed daughter Genevieve Blake Fayen. In 1981, Fred married Constance (Connie) Bowlby
of Mountainside, NJ and they welcomed daughter Juliana (Julie) Fayen.
In 1963 Fred accepted a teaching position at the Pingry School in New Jersey, where he taught,
coached and advised for the next 45 years. Over the span of his career, Fred taught various
Middle and Upper School levels of history, including an AP course which he developed on
Modern Asian and Soviet history, fondly referred to as “MASH”, as well as a survey course
which he developed for seventh grade and taught for many years.
Fred served as Pingry’s Director of Guidance for fifteen years. He was a dedicated college
counselor, assisting hundreds of students and parents through the college application process. He
also coached various levels of soccer, swimming and lacrosse over the course of his tenure.
The year of his retirement, Fred was honored with the Henry G. Stifel III Award for
exemplifying the characteristics of courage, endurance, optimism, compassion and spirit. A
scholarship was established in his name to ensure children of faculty could receive a Pingry
Fred will be remembered fondly by colleagues, advisees, and students for his kindness, insight
and gentle humor. He is survived by his wife Connie of 39 years, daughters Blake Hargrave and
Julie Fayen, grandson Sean Hargrave, and stepbrother Bonner M. Field.
A service celebrating his life will be planned for the fall of 2021. In lieu of flowers, donations
may be made to The Frederick G. H. Fayen II Scholarship Fund at the Pingry School, Basking
Ridge, NJ, or to the Community Presbyterian Church in Mountainside.